After today I've lost all hope. My husband left preliminary mediation papers on the porch this morning. I told him I was not agreeable. I met with an attorney today and have a plan in place if I'm pushed. If he wants a divorce he can file. I've asked him to leave me alone. For me that's a180. I'm hoping to stall. For what it's worth, my attorney said that quite often the spouse that wants out at some point later in the proceedings or afterward has a change of heart but by then the other spouse has moved on.