There is no confirmation that my stbx is engaged to OW. When I made that statement, I was coming from the perspective of "what if" he is engaged to her and is planning on telling me or announcing it after the divorce is final.
How long has your Xh been engaged Trusting?
Yes T^2, I was amazed how my "red alert" alarm starting blaring full steam ahead when the changes I've been praying for and wanting to see have come to pass.
I feel like such an idiot for wanting and praying for this and when it finally comes to pass, Im scared out of my witts. There's always such a hidden lesson deep within a person getting what they really wish for. Like they say be careful what you wish for, you might just get it!
See in my mind I figured positive changes would mean he would have positive changes within himself, and therefore there would be the oppurtunity to really resolve some issues between us. I think had this grandiose, dramatic, and romantic reconcilliation fantasy cooked up in my head, and that everything would fall into place with a big BANG between us, and all would be well. Truthfully, when we reconcilled the last two times, it was a little dramatic.
But ya know what? I now really feel that he's been having interrupted MLC on and off for 4 years. As I look back, and how much I've learned now, he didn't do any work on himself the last two times he left. It was more like " Ok Im over my anger now, can I come back home?" AS for now....I will only know if he and I ever get a chance to really talk about stuff. Right now, I think Im too chicken to go there with him, if he was wanting to do that. Right now Im not sure if that's what he's wanting to do or what's going on with him. Quite frankly Im getting so tired of this MLC stuff I don't care!
