So got an e-mail from my L. Form attached for me to complete so my wages can have spousal and child support withdrawn automatically. What the hell?
I can't keep doing this. It is too much of a mind f*ck to have positve, forward-looking interactions with W and then still have this awful process grinding in the backgroud. I am having a hard time dealing with the emotional whiplash that it is creating.
I do not want to submit this form. What is going on?!
First of all, it's unlikely you could ignore the form.
Second, as I told you in the past, you are taking a lot of the divorce proceeds way to personal. You are seeing them as attacks on you. THEY ARE NOT.
A lot of it is procedure, forms, etc. the only way they take away from the positive interactions is if you let them. I mean would you rather have venom and these paperwork or positive interactions and paperwork..
Somehow, some way you need to separate the divorce proceedings from the state of your M.
I know it seems to you that if your W was "all in" she could just stop the divorce proceeding and I know that really really bothers you that she hasn't. She isn't there yet.
Also, you don't really know the reason why she hasn't either.
But know that if you are W decides to withdraw the divorce petition it doesn't mean things are suddenly fixed anymore than keeping the petition active means there is no hope.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
