So w came by last night to drop off s, didn't stay long because she had work to do coming off of spring break. Handed a check over to her and she said "what's this for?".....I said I would get her the other half before the month is out. It's always an odd transaction - handing those checks over - and I can tell that she feels a little awkward or uncomfortable receiving them.
And today you received something from your L asking for wage garnishment. Think the two could be related? I say get on the phone and ask your L if this is standard procedure (like why are you getting this just now) of if this is a specific request from your W's L. Wages don't have to be garnished; it's a burden on the state. If she feels uncomfortable having you hand her a check, and she's looking for an alternative, that's not good.
Quote:
That said, there is no way I can move forward with IVF and D at the same time. I think she knows that.
In light of my previous post, that is a very dangerous assumption.
Quote:
I can't help but be slightly optimistic since all of our interactions have been so...well...."good"....for quite some time now. But as I mentioned before, the petition is still out there and she has said nothing about pulling it back just yet....nor has she indicated that is on her mind.
I don't like to play devil's advocate, but I'm analytical by nature so I can't help it.
First, your interactions being "good" is fantastic, regardless of how things turn out. Your S needs to have parents that are amiable for his own well-being, whether they're M'd or D'd, so nothing you're doing will be lost.
Second, unfortunately it is possible that this is as good as it's going to get. It is possible that your W is just trying to get along with you, be friends, but really isn't looking for anything more. Doesn't mean she won't ever but maybe not for some time (post-divorce.) You can't be walking on eggshells all the time, not speaking your mind, juggling two visions for a future, and still call it "good." I'm sure you've enjoyed it and it has been great spending time "as a family." But that illusion is just that -- an illusion. Your W is living elsewhere, filing for D, collecting CS and maintenance, with split custody of your son. THAT is reality, at least for now.
Neither one of you are being directly honest with the other, and you can't build a "good" relationship like that.
My money still stands, but I keep getting vibes that I don't like. I just think they need to be addressed.
