Where it fell apart was when you informed her. At that point you could have been perceived as rescuing him by persecuting her. She may already have her defenses up and perceive any communication from you as an attack. In that instance she is more likely to react with a counter attack of her own.
I think you may have explained her thought process well. There certainly was a counter attack and her defenses are on high alert with everyone, including me. Thank you for the feedback JustStunned
