My w is angry , she said I should never had kids with you. to I don't trust you with my kids. Yet my w is never home I am always with the kids. I responded to my wife's Angry feelings. I told my w can you remember ever saying anything nice to me in the last 2 months. I waited for her to respond. It took a good 3 mins. My w responded with I have told you are better with the kids. I told my w that I don't want to talk anymore. Can we pick this up on another day? I told her that I don't like the tone my w is using with me. We both went to bed.
My w was texting me a lot on Wednesday. random chatter. I was cordial and nice tried to share a few stories let her control the conversation flow and I leave to saw I have to go to a meeting.
Last night my comes down to talk with me again. My w seemed to have a bee in her bonnet. I told her that I did not feel like having a conversation tonight. I told my w that I was upset with the way the conversation went the other night. I told my w that we can schedule it for another night. My w left all in a huff. I just didn't feel like getting insulted or told I'm worthless anymore. I want my w and I to talk respectfully to each other. I know how I speak to her. I want the same respect. My w doesn't respect me hence why March 30 she will be spending it with the OM.
Can you see how when you remain detached, and lay out a boundary of "I won't be talked to this way; let's resume this later, when you're ready to speak more respectfully to me" ... she responds by reaching out to you, civilly?
GOOD JOB. I bet she does the same thing today, when you repeated your boundary.
A woman will often test a man, even subsconsciously, to see if the man will stand up for himself, lovingly. How you respond to these tests will make a difference in your relationship, over time, regardless of where your marriage ends up.
