Not sure where to start

[wishing, hoping]

Thanks, 25. Your advice really puts things in a new perspective for me. I feel better knowing that I do have control over my actions and I can indeed become a better person, not just for the sake of saving my marriage, but for also for myself and my children.

My husband told me I was a wonderful mother, good housekeeper, a good person and a beautiful woman. But he didn't say I was a good wife. I think that is the point I need to work on. I didn't keep his love bank filled.

It is just so scary even though that time is on my side, it somewhat feels like it isn't because a divorce is granted in 120 days and just seems so soon. And my husband is so stubborn.

But then I know I should make the right changes and do the right things because they are the right things to do and not just to save the marriage. I can't help but feel that the clock is ticking. That is another 180 for me. To not feel like I am constantly racing the clock.