He is still in bed now. As I was getting up this morning to get my S15 off to school, he said "thank you for the cigarettes last night, just a rough day/night" quote]
This would have been a great time to say "Yes, this has been incredibly difficult for ALL OF US," and let that sink in with him. Poor baby is more focused on himself (which is entirely the consequences of his poor and even destructive decisions) than he is of you or even YOUR KIDS.
Other than that, "A+", Autumn, really. Nicely done!!
Starsky
Better to keep quiet. Your detaching. Remember you owe him nothing when you are detached. The rule of thumb is this. Any sentence about conversations that are not important. Add the word "Do not" in front of it. By just leaving and not saying any comments about the relationship you avoided a conversation about the relationship or how hurt his feelings are or what ever else floated to the surface.
The night before you were a kind and respectful human being. And you left it at that. Very well done. But I think you need to leave him alone with his thoughts. And let him shape them how ever he wants.
Just remember that remorse is different between different people.
Flowers always make people better, happier, and more helpful; they are sunshine, food and medicine for the soul. unconditional love is awesome!
