25 Youre probably right about the charges not being common, they're usually involved when someone screams out rape, or if he dates a subordinate. I'm just saying Navy is a flag officers aide, he could go far, he shouldn't risk it IMHO. YES believe me I do know a thing or two about crazy spouse calls. On the other hand I have seen commands fully support dating in cases where there is a legal separation in play. Most commands take into account how some states demand ridiculous long separation before divorce time, so will grant some leeway if the Soldier discloses this.
Personally I support walking away. The article does refer to nice as weak. Or rather guys who are soo nice that they walked all over. Sometimes you have to push back, otherwise you'll always get picked on. I think Navy needs to push back, of course in a mature adult way.
In my case standing strong on my boundaries and doing what he calls tit for tat in the article made my W respect me more, then respect led to affection, and we are better now than we were before. A couple of times when I held on she threatened to leave. I held steady and I believe it led to more respect on her part. (which if you remember she had none for me).
I certainly do agree he has nothing to lose and tons to win.
