consistent changes + sufficient time = change he can believe in.
The more you focus on WHY your h is doing what he's doing or thinking,
the less you'll work on those changes that he needs to see in you.
My biggest regret, even though things worked out for us,
is how much time I wasted on why my h was doing what he was doing, or what he was planning/feeling/thinking or saying...
None of it was in my control.... AND instead of obsessing about my h,
I could have created a happier, more fulfilling life for me and my kids, that much faster...which was probably a trigger for our reconciliation anyhow.
Figure out something you can join or do or a class you can take this week so you can start GAL and being happier, more like you were when he fell in love with you... be a woman only a fool would leave.
i'm so glad i found this tonight 25 - i really needed to read this. i have been following your posts and should probably print them into a booklet and read them every 5 mins when i obsess.
it would be great if you could give us "obsessors" some more advice on how to stop going down that path - though what you've written for w,h really puts it in perspective. it is wasted time isn't it
thank you for all you do here - it is awe inspiring
zig
Zig you are very welcome.
I posted somewhere today on how to stop the obsessing but will try again tomorrow. THere are also some "stop thought" (?) exercises or posts somewhere on this site you can search out too.
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