Thx for your recent update. I check in on the Board every couple of months to see what is going on. I am going on 2.5 years in my situation. My wife is not as angry as yours but does have the same lack of engagement. There is also OM lurking in the background.
25's advice is very interesting and is similar to what my friends are telling me. We deserve better, our kids deserve more and there is a better option out there. Like you, for some reason I just can't throw in the towel. Not sure if it is the fear of leaving her or the fear of what my kids future will be.
I would almost be glad if my wife came forth and asked for a divorce. It appears that neither one of us has the where with all to make this happen. She continues to have contact with OM and I have told her that if she wants to be with him, then go. Our last discussion on this was 3 months ago and she is still here.
Good luck with your situation. At some point both you and I need to take back control of our future and start putting what's left of our lives back together.
