it's sad to me if this is how it is with other couples,
b/c when my h plays the "nice card" I give you my word
I feel more loving to him and i get on board with it.
It's his temper that worsens things when I'm not up to my game. But when I am, and when I DB in the face of his temper, it usually ends up lowering the temperature in him too.
So the love is met with love, not taking advantage of. THis article seems like a lot of measuring would happen and that's not so cool to me.
Also my gut says somehow in the article, "nice" reads as weak. Am I off there?
JMO.
also, I seriously doubt the idea of Navy dating would hurt his career at all. I told him a remark he could make to his wife...there are subtle ways he can get the point across without risking a charge of adultery.
if his w freaked and called his boss to report supposed affairs, she would not be the first crazy w to call a boss with that complaint.
The commanders I dealt with tended to take their soldier's side of things unless violence was in the home. And most wives don't like hearing this but adultery is a very rare charge. There are almost always aggravating circumstances such as "in exchange for an honorable discharge", which was the only time I had an adultery client out of 300...fwiw.
Navy, the consistent theme here is what matters. She has to fear losing you, so whatever that means...figure it out.
YOu Realize she may say "fine, go!" AND if she does, then nothing you do will get her to come around, so you may as well learn that now...
to just get to the other side of this, that much faster and stop wasting time.
OTOH, you may have a reaction like Denver had...in time. To consider GB's remarks, sure, be discreet.
but you have to DO something NEW and DIFFERENT...in a big way
Sorry you are in this situation... ((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
