Thanks BDB. I am happier, but not yet content. I still have a ways to go with my sitch. In the early stages people tell you that this is going to take time, but you never realize just how much time it may take. Take it a day at a time, hell, a second at a time if you have to in the beginning.
Denver [/quote]
I suppose when you think about things there is no point in rushing anything with our R's, before the bomb I know that I wasn't in a hurry to change anything, so I can't rush change now. The OM isn't going to stop me working on myself, but whilst he is on the scene I don't think my W will face up to her own issues & just keep blaming me. I love my W, she really is my BF and I miss that so much. I'm wondering how effective my detaching is going to be, seeing as she is doing a natural 180 and detaching herself. But I'm gonna stick to it, because it's the best chance I've got right now. But I did start thinking about what changed her mind to reconsider giving our R another go (temporarily anyway)- when I confronted her & put her in her place in an argument- which was a 180 for me in our R as I normally avoid confrontation. I'll have to explore that one in my next counselling session.
Today I've had a good day - doing UNI work, saw some old friends I used to volunteer with at a school and had fun. Oh & finally the DR book arrived today - nearly finished chapter 2 & read most of chapter 10 (infidelity). I love the book already & I'm focused on the long road ahead.
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
