Awesome, remember, you can't seem like a cat waiting to pounce either. To the degree she believes you are going to be OK regardless of the outcome, and that you are making yourself happy and being the best you possible, you will have a greater chance of reconciliation.

Remember, self confidence and self sufficiency are attractive. Model that. Treat her as you would someone you wanted to date -- you wouldn't appear needy or codependent in that type of circumstance and that's exactly what you need to project now.

If she believes you're there for the taking, she's less motivated to do any introspection. When she believes that you just might move on without her, that's when she'll start to think.

That's not to say "be a jerk and move out", do your 180's, be a great father, contribute around the house, but don't let your affection or commitment level be taken for granted.

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015