Thank you guys for your support. I certainly had a mini meltdown yesterday. I have an appt with my IC at 6:30 tomorrow. I thought about a lot last night, and have came to the conclusion that my W issues are so deep I can't keep making myself vulnerable to be there for her. As you said Grmpy there are no more excuses. I am going totally dark and fully expect to never to hear from her again. I am coming to terms with her adultery and then on top of that continuing in a relationship with her affair partner. That is a major bruise to the ego, but I think eventually that will fall apart. At this point I will say that I won't be there to pick up the pieces when that happens. There is just too much water under the bridge, I could never trust her again...

I probably will not be here much because alhtough it's been very helpful, it also gets me spun up to make me dwell on my sitch to look for other things to do. The only thing I can do now is to protect myself and move on with my life. I will post any significant updates if they happen, and will add to others sitch's if a can when I visit here.

Thank you one and all for your support and advice. This is a great community with a lot of great people. I am Broken but will not be defeated. Godspeed and good luck to all in your respective sitches!


me 38
W 30
T 3
M in 05/2010
Separated 08/2011
Stephchildren (all hers) SS17, SS12, SD8
I filed 8/27, she countered I filed response 9/5
Anxiously waiting on the judge!