I just got a text from H: I need to tell you, no matter what happens to us I love you. I always have and always will. Ian didn't get a chance to say that to his family today. I am really sorry for the pain you are in. I don't need a response, I just had to say that.
So I have not responded and don't intend to, it would do no good.
Good. I'm glad you understand that. Respond only to emergencies, or legitimate things about the boys.