Divorce....with a side of crazy...

[imthemom]

ok..Im really trying to stay calm, but I got his "purposal" offer and am completely freaking out!!!!...
I have an appt on Mon. to go over with my L but Im am really scared..
I dont even know were to begin but he is offering a quarter of the state guidlines for CS and a little over that for SS...because his L says he is not guarenteed the overtime he has always worked and says that I should be working full time (I havent since the day we married) and figured out the amounts based on his base pay and my "full time" wage...we have tax forms for the amount he makes every year and he has made at least 30 grand in overtime every year but does not want it figured in.
he has paid my truck payment since we seperated and wants to be reimbursed for half of that amount, he is asking for double the time we agreed to for our S15 and he hasnt even consistantly seen him for his weekends since June and I have also documented that ...but my L is saying S15 will have to speak to the judge now since he is of an age to speak for himself...he is so devistated by all of this I didnt want to drag him into it and we had already agreed on that. STBX works so much he cant even see him alt. weekends and the one night a week we set up...S15 just spent the weekend with him last weekend and that was the first time since Jan...He knows he cant have him due to his schedule but wants it on papaer so his support amount will be less.....WHO IS THIS PERSON???!!! I cant believe he is going to take this to that point...at this point I am not settleing for anything but have seen these men go into court and win on things that just seem obviouse that they should have to pay from friends experiences and I am terrified....we would not even survice on what he is agreeing to ....we would have to move and give up what little we have now...
after 19 yrs it has come down to he just wants out of his responsabilities and will do what ever it takes to get there....

I guess i wait to speak to my lawyer but I just feel so violated after reading those papers...