Is this cake eating 5

[Denver_2010]

So my question is:

Should I agree to him coming over each morning and afternoon to pick up and drop off the kids (keeping up the regular contact / making him see what he's missing in family life)

OR

Would it be better from a drop-the-rope/get-a-taste-of-the-reality-of-life-on-your-own

Yes and yes. I say do both NLW. First, he is still a father. One with parental responsibilities. Why shouldn't he take responsibility for getting his children to and from school. Seems to me that that's one less burden to fall on your shoulders. And SO WHAT that he has to stand awkwardly in front of the house waiting??? THAT is the dose of reality that he needs. That is his problem, and his alone.

The second part of this is that you should also drop the rope. Give him the responsibility and see what he does with it. Send the kids out to him when they are ready. You don't need to go outside with them. They are old enough. In other words, you don't need to see him or talk to him when he picks them up or drops them off. Drop the rope and let him deal with HIS responsibility.

Lastly, go do some really, really fun things with your kids. Just the 3 of you. I promise you that they will be talking to him about it when he is driving them to and from school. Get someone to watch them one night a week so that you can go out and have some fun by yourself or with friends. He will hear about that too. So you will be killing 2 birds with one stone! GALing AND getting him to wonder wtf you are doing... and he will. But you used the right term... DROP THE ROPE.

JMO NLW...

Denver