I've received a lot of recommendations to let my H go - live my life as if he is no longer a part of it.
And I'm trying to do this as much as I can.
But I also think that in my sitch - 2 kids: D16, S13 - there is going to be a lot of contact.
H is back from his trip tomorrow after being away for 5 days and I think he'll ask again if he can take kids to school in the mornings and drop them home after school each day.
For a while, I've been resisting his requests to take them to school - because he is not very reliable, time-wise, and having him standing awkwardly around the house each morning was pretty stressful for us all.
I also worried that he was only wanting to drive them around to justify his recent bullying of me about his taking of our family car.
That, and I suspect his L has also told him to do more in respect of child-caring duties if he wants to get his hands on a big chunk of my superannuation.
So my question is:
Should I agree to him coming over each morning and afternoon to pick up and drop off the kids (keeping up the regular contact / making him see what he's missing in family life)
OR
Would it be better from a drop-the-rope/get-a-taste-of-the-reality-of-life-on-your-own perspective to say:
"We've got our own routines now, thanks. We need to do these things on our own" (Ie, Now that you've left us)?
So, might it be better to increase the contact OR give him a chance to miss us?
