You are getting no support, he is getting your "awful" moods, so he gives you no support, so you give him awful moods, and so on and so on... Something has got to give one way or another. One of you has to be the bigger person. When a child is sick is one of the most stressful times in a parent's life. Add to that marital strife, and you have a war no one can win. So, you have to call a truce. You, knowing what you do about this site, and knowing that you may have to be the one who starts behaving differently. Then, you can wait to see if a change in your H's attitude follows. Try it and see if it helps. what do you have to lose by trying to be kinder? Bite your tongue if you have to, to keep from arguing. Ask him for what you need. Get him to sit at home with the kids while you go out to de-stress. Even if it's only to the movies or the library. A few moments alone to catch a breath. Try to stay calm. Get a yoga cd or something to help while you are at home during the day. Let the kids pretend to work out, too. Play music for them to dance to, and you, too. Make your day to day life fun with the kids; it makes the day go by faster. Take them on a picnic to the park, or out into the garden. Anything to make your life easier.
