if all she wants from you is childcare but to leave her alone
ask her to leave & give you the kids so you can have a real wife/marriage.
This is not a marriage and apparently she's not interested in giving a thing to it.
Does she realize her treatment of you is unfair? Really? If she feared losing you, it might make a difference.
Other than that, all I can say is
you need to live your life now. No more "on hold". I wish we knew what she apologized for...
but no matter if she's still cold to you. Navy, there are good people out here in the Real world...
your w is stuck in her misery. Only being away from you and still being miserable, is likely to show her the truth.
Take back your life my friend...
((( )))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016