Hi Karma - yes this is my hope! That he can express himself without feeling like he's on eggshells (which he has said a lot). I'm a strong personality, and he often says "with power comes responsibility" to me. So yes, I am being accepting of his need for space. I can fiercely accept, just as much as I can fiercely argue. What this process is teaching me is that I can be both gentle and strong - using my strength in different ways. I like it very much.
We have been talking a lot over the weekend. Yesterday, he emailed me something that was upsetting and worrying. Saying how lost he is etc. I offered him support. Otherwise, I just let him do the contact. He needs to find himself and I can certainly understand that process. It's a hard process though, and I did my whole, "I need to find myself' thing a couple of years ago. He was there to support me entirely. He says he needs to be alone - is that a man thing?
