Hi Labug Thanks for posting that link - just finished reading the 1st chapter of DR. So much of it makes sense in how I can relate to my own marraige problems.
I'm really starting to believe that how we communicate & resolve arguments is genuinely the root cause and catalyst for all the problems our M has today. We've never addressed them and just carried on with more of the same. I think the biggest admission for me to come out of my counselling was that I was unhappy with M as well, but not so unhappy that I wanted out or to leave.
I'm pretty sure that my W's PA is still ongoing & I honestly question if she tells me that she has slept with him, whether I would even want to try & save our M. Does that make me a bad person or selfish? The thought of another man with my wife makes me want to puke and I go all anxious and inward. I don't think I could handle it. I'm so scared that if she does sleep with him, that it'll be me filing for a D. This is the last thing I want, it's not my pride that I'm worried about, it's about my love for her dying.
I thought I was doing good today, but this is so hard. I'm a mess again. Need to pull myself together before she comes home from dancing later.
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
