I'm keeping the ultramarathon theme. I'll mention again when I started this journey, it felt like a full-out sprint. It then started feeling like a marathon. Now it's progressed to feeling more like an ultramarathon. So if you're new and you feel like your spouse is sprinting toward the finish line, there's always the possibility you'll be given the gift of time, as I like to call it.
If you're given the gift of time, try to use it to your advantage. Get out there and GAL. I think it's the best thing I've ever done. I feel like I've built this entirely new life for myself. I've been at this for over 13 months now and there is so many good things that have happened. You'll feel better if you can get outside your comfort zone a bit. It'll also help with the patience. And this journey has required a ton of patience.
For me, I feel a lot better about the person I'm striving to be because of the changes I've worked through. On the other hand, my W has not shown any tangible signs of moving back toward me. She is also not moving away from at nearly the rate she was, although she's doing some things, that TBH, I am not sure that we can work through. However, I continue to stay the course and I'll decide to cross that bridge if I see it at that time.
For me, too, I have turned my situation over to God and I'm seeking his direction. My relationship with Him has grown tremendously over the last 13+ months.
