@Gunny: The red wings showed up two days after I posted and of course the buzzards were sighted at Hinckley on time. I’ve started a small house garden. Ownership of the house is still up in the air, but I expect it to resolve in my favor. Yes, the gear continues to improve. I remember trading for an old sand filled flak vest because I could use it as a rest and it made a good pillow. I wonder if DD 782 is still used.
@Val: You’ve helped me grow in obscure ways I shall have to explain some day.
Journaling: I have history with a friend going back to kindergarten. He is an alcoholic in his 23rd year of recovery. A long time ago he told me a person’s development arrests at about the age they begin to drink. I am certain my memory of his statement is clouded and someone here will correct me.
This memory started me thinking and applying some of what I have learned over the last couple of years. IDK perhaps I am rewriting history a bit also, but some of this fits and thinking about this differently is helping me.
W had childhood traumas she would talk about mostly dealing with slights perceived by her. She brought them up many times usually when attempting to compare her childhood to someone else’s. There was always something left unsaid. Prying would cause her to become angry and defensive. Late last year her sister told me W had been molested as a teenager by a friend of her grandfather.
I believe some of the issues we had stem from those occurrences and my inability to properly perceive what was causing W reactions. I believe W has to some extent retreated back to the age she was traumatized at and is trying to cope again from that point. This is not the only cause and people are more complex than this. I understand she is in therapy to help her adjust to this divorce. I pray she is able to discuss the other issues she has and finds a way to resolve those also.
BITS Me 55, ACK, when did that happen? Doesn't feel like 55 D 30 S 27
You create your own universe as you go along - Winston Churchill
