I think that my wife (among other fantasies) has this idea of the future that we will get D, that will help forge me into the man she wants, and then we can start over. I think that my well-meaning, OM-hating MIL is feeding this fantasy. I want to imagine it too, but it is so messed up. First, W still completely will not acknowledge to herself or to anyone that she has any problems, responsibility for damaging M, etc. Some time in the future (when A fizzles), she will size me up and say, "good job, elf. That's really all I've been asking for since early in our M." She is such a cake-eater! I don't know what to do. Patience, just GAL and 180 and try to learn to set boundaries. I would be sooo willing to move out and take turns caring for the kids. This would be an excellent approach to start R our M. But if there is OM in the picture, and W has no direction towards R, then I can't work on our RM alone. I can only work on me. I think that my ability to survive in limbo is a very important thing, coming up. How long can I last?
