It seems like we are stuck in a pattern where Sun-Tues go pretty well. Good family time, no issues or attempts at discussions, but once Wed comes around it's like my W has been replaced with a complete different person. With my position comes the seasonality of not having adequate snow for sports, so we have been discussing what the next few months will look like. For some reason, my W feels like she is at the end of her "time" away to work on issues. I on the other hand have not put any time frame in place or said if this doesn't happen than this will. I'm not certain what she is referring to, but really don't feel like it is my place to ask qualifying questions to better understand. I've really applied the db principles and the 37 steps effectively over the last few weeks and haven't had any hiccups.
I can see that inside she is really torn up and confused with everything that is happening so I see no point in adding to the turmoil. She did ask if she could move back and I had told her that we could discuss it, but I was unwilling to yesterday. To which she became angry, but I left the room and completely ignored the small tantrum that pursued. After a while I told her that we could discuss it Sat when we were both off from work and could commit some time to the discussion. At this point, I really do not think much has been resolved internally with her and I'm not willing to have her move back in and then have our S and I experience more of the same old situation that has been occurring. I just don't know how to put this into words that will not anger or upset her. I also am not certain that if push came to shove I would have any way to prevent her from moving back in. Any advice would be appreciated.
