I think you are so right... your post helps a lot. Thank you for the time and thought you put into it. I guess the problem is that I can not just let her go. We talked about separating and splitting kids and peacefully splitting assets, then the next day her family insists she go through an attorney. I made an offer right away, and her attorney has done nothing to suggest or contact me regarding a deal for close to 5 weeks now. Leaving involves major financial issues and custody of the kids. Unless she outright decides to leave on good financial terms and do 50/50 custody its going to be a war in court that surely will end us for good. I've offered to settle and offered her over 50% of marital assets already.
