Hey Ro, I had a similar experience with S19 yesterday, part of my "fix-it" issue.

He was not in a good mood after our sky-diving adventure. He is pretty closed down in situations that are unfamiliar or he isn't the expert.

My previous MO would have been to ask what's wrong, try to cajole him into a better mood, be over solicitous. I would also then ruin my good time by taking on his feelings.

Yesterday I respected him enough to allow him to deal with his own feelings. He can do it.

And I respected my right to have a good time without being controlled by someone else's feelings.

I had to work this out step-by-step in my head as the day went on but it did make a difference. By the end of the evening we were all having a great time.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss