ITM: If you are in real dire straits (meaning no money for food, housing etc) - you can go to family court and go for support for the interim. Do that immediately (ask your lawyer how it works where you live) if you don't have enough to get by. Do not put it off.
One of my closest friends had her H do everything similar to my situation and yours 3 years ago. Lived with OW and did not give his stay at home wife $ for anything. She had to use their line of credit which she then maxed out over the course of the year. Their case was extreme. OW dumped him and he wanted back (often happens). She had grown to a point she no longer wanted him and said no. A month later he jumped off a bridge and died! Very tragic. But he had shown his true colours by not supporting them.
Don't back down on what you need. Call your L and let him/her know how things are and that you need some resolution now.
