Tomorrow will be 13 months since my H left, and I have some thoughts running through my head. #1- how much longer is this going to consume me? I feel like every morning I wake up and check another X off on my calendar as a reminder that today is another day without him. You would think after 13 months of being apart I wouldn't feel as consumed as I do.
#2- Will I ever get over him?
"Everyone you meet has baggage. Find someone who loves you enough to help you unpack." ¤Formerly DelinquentGurl¤
So sorry to hear that you are so sad right now. But don't beat yourself up for it, though.
It really doesn't matter if it's been 13 days or 13 months. We all need to heal at our own pace and you know you are in that process, but there will still be very sad moments like the one you are having right now.
Hang in there!
Me & H: 44 D7, D6, S3 Together: 20y, M: 17y EA: 11/13/10, Sep: 12/23/10 EA becomes PA: Spring 2011 H filed for D: 09/06/12 D Negotiating began 2/15 OW seemingly gone on 3/15 Still negotiating D
I have been having those same thoughts.. and although I intellectually agree with KG about our hearts healing at our own pace... part of me is just like "get over it already!".
I agree with Rick that we will get threw this or "over it"....
...but man.. this patience thing is killer.
M(f): 40 D'ed: 8/12
Show empathy when there's pain. Show grace when warranted. Kindness in the midst of anger. Faith in the face of fear.
It can be frustrating when our hearts can't seem to catch up. This can be a long and sometimes painful journey. Thinking of you today and hoping that you have the chance to do something nice for you.
(((DG))) I don't think you have detached enough. You are still ridding on his roller coaster. I am starting to understand what needs to be done in order to at least save my self and sanity. I really am getting to a point where I have accepted that my M is over. Now I struggle with something new. I asked my self the same quetion I asked you. And I don't know the answer anymore but I do feel better.
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
DG...I can't remember how long you two were married, but there will be a time when you don't think about it as much. Unfortunately, you need some closure (either get back together or get divorced) before this will start happening. Hang in there. You have come so far.
How slow is the d process going for you? On the other side of the state mine will be final on Halloween .....I lime to say that W can dress as a witch, makes me smile. I know what you're going through, been there myself for 19the months. I hear it gets better, I believe it, do you?
