OMG Stefanie - this is what happened with us too!! So many people saw us going really well together, and we did. We were such a strong couple. Now, he too is seeing a therapist, and I feel I can't suggest a thing to him for fear of him interpreting that it is me being controlling. So, I have totally stepped back and not emailed or called him - unless to respond. I let him do all the contacting. Fortunately, he does contact me several times a week otherwise I would get VERY sad.
Once in a while I feel I have to risk making a suggestion to help him see a different perspective instead of him being stuck in his head the whole time. Whether he takes it or not is his choice, but at least I 'planted a seed'.
As for whether to contact him for his B-day or what have you. Personally, I would simply send him an ecard and leave it at that. If you want to 'plant a seed' and leave it alone - don't push on anything. Hopefully, he will call to thank you and maybe suggest an outing. But, personally I wouldn't suggest it (but that's me because I'm tired of the rejection).
