I can understand your situation a lot. My H and I call each other our pet names still, even if we are separated. We still do care about each other - despite talking about divorce. We are trying to remain respectful and caring (which is actually odd, I know!). We always had respectfulness and caring in our relationship so that is not our issue. Was it part of yours?
Well we've always cared for each other, but if I'm totally honest I'm the one who does stuff to show I care in simple ways. For example I'll be the one to make a hot drink, cook dinner, go to the store when we run out of stuff, ask if she needs tablets when she's sick. Stuff I never really thought about that I did for her without thinking, because I was happy to do it for her. Our problem is communication, my wife never backs down in an argument (even when outrageously wrong). We've had a rough ride for about 6 years. We had a lot of financial issues which caused stress on our M and our working patterns meant we never seen that much of each other. So when we talked it was serious, depressing stuff and over time, we forgot how to be romantic and caring at the level we used to be at. We became more like best friends who had kids and made love less and less over time. My W really knocked my confidence over time, because I never stood up to her, because she is so stubborn. This made me withdrawn & detached & pushed her away really. But I never stopped loving her, I just figured that once all my studies had finished Next May, we would have a better WLB (work life balance) and be happier. I ignored the present situation & now I'm paying the ultimate price.
Does my SITCH have any other similarities with yours YC?
Me 34 W 32 D 9 S 6 M: 9 years T: 12 Bomb: 02/11/12 EA/PA: 12/17/11 - ongoing Moved out: Oct 2012 Joint Filed for D: 2/11/13
