Just separated from my husband and need support

[Milady]

I have been thinking about what 180s I need to be doing and what H's stereotype of me is. Perhaps if I put it out there in a public space I will stick to my goals better.

His stereotype of me:
-I take everything very personally and get upset even when he is trying to make a joke
-I nag him about things
-I am a bit of a baby about things. I don't really take care of my own bills, etc. I've always had someone else to do that for me.
-I am very introverted. I like to stay at home rather than go out with friends.
-If I know there is a problem I will often wait until it becomes an emergency before I do something about it.

So 180s would be:
-Assume that he is not criticizing me and try to let things roll of my shoulders a bit more.
-Ask him nicely when something really needs to be done and let smaller things go.
-Grow up and take care of myself (and yes, I know how important this part is). I just did my own taxes so I'm slowly learning.
-Develop more of a social life. Say yes when friends invite me out. Join a social group. Take a class.
-Be more proactive with any issues that arise.

And my own personal goal is to become a more non-reactive person as I've always been extremely reactive. I'm trying to remember that anger never makes situations better and often makes them worse and that the only thing in this world I can control is my own thoughts and actions.