Letting people live their lives and GALing...

[AntoniaB]

Hey Brookie, thanks!!

I've really looked at this guy and found that he's not the opposite of my XH at all...he's really nothing like him or the polar opposite...in fact I think the reason I like him is that he reminds me so much of myself, and I'm so awesome, haha!! Our interests are different and in some ways overlapping, our goals and dreams and lifestyle choices in sync, and our approach to trying to improve ourselves post-divorce is very congruent.

I think I feel pretty strongly that if something doens't work it's not going to make me nuts and have terrible self-esteem. I feel like I am reminding myself constantly that I am a great person and if things work well it's just because he and I are both in the same "place" right now and it isn't because I manipulated or seduced him into being with me (because if I did and he wasn't with me I'd blame myself).

I actually don't look at the XH's fb---that's a friend who has looked and occasionally tells me things. I honestly don't care when she does. It just sort of validates what I already know, that I don't know him at all. I pray for him sometimes that he finds his way. But it's like he's a very distant memory now. I have had him blocked for awhile.

I almost told that same friend to leak the news that I was seeing someone to one of her mutual friends with XH. Then I stopped myself. I think the only reason I wanted to do it was because I know on some level that it will hurt him to know I moved on in that way. And so I decided forget it, not his business.

But thanks for posting to me Brookie...nice to have the support. I'm in a really good place (with or without new guy).