I just want to be friends...

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YankeeCandle: Just read through your sitch. Sorry for being on this rough road.

The good thing is that you are working on your self. That's the best you can do. And believe me, it does pay off emotionally. The day your happiness is in your control and not outside of you is when people will wanna be around you (i am sure this applies to your H as well).

As for your H's talking on the D details. There's not much you can do to control that. You have pick up courage and talk to him if wants to. Keep calm and talk details. Though it can feel like hell, know inside that this is NOT the end. Believe me, it is never over. My W and I were about 1 week away from signing the final decree before things slowed down.

However i will say that it would be good to dig into the fundamental cause for your R to disintegrate. try to figure out your role in the R's demise. Then try working on each of them. Do a 180 on each. You earlier identified your mood swings. Try to work on them. Not for your H, but for yourself. Become a stronger and happier person. Then your H will have second thoughts on why is trying to move away from you.

But as i said, don't do all these for anyone but yourself.

Good luck!