Not sure where to start

[wishing, hoping]

Thank you all. I have been "stalking" this site for a few weeks now, too scared to post anything. But I am glad I did. So I have reviewed the 37 rules and I have the Divorce Busting and Divorce Remedy Books as well. I have met with a lawyer as well and I know where I stand.

On February 29 he filed for divorce. This past Saturday, March 18 I was served. I was just devastated. Since the bomb I have found hidden charges on the credit cards for flowers, restaurants, gas purchases in areas miles from where we live. He has started using Rogaine, coloring his hair and wearing different style clothes. I even saw charges back in November where he started registering for online dating sites.

Well, since I got served papers yesterday H and I had a long discussion last night. I didn't bring up the credit card or anything. I cracked the surface and I saw my H that I haven't seen in months, maybe even years. He cried. I have never, ever seen him cry.