Husband left me...feel hopeless

[labug]

Stephanie, I know you are in pain. It does get better with time.

Here's where your work lies:

It's hard when things aren't going the way you want them or envisioned them and when I can't help my H, the way I think he needs help. I know the only person that can help him is himself, but it's so hard when my R with him is out of my control.

You relationships are never within your control, no matter who they are with.

Be careful about deciding what other's need. Unless they ask for something in particular it is usually seen as controlling to step in and "fix."