if you KNOW it's a deal breaker for you, so be it. Not sure why the particular OM matters so much, but I'm sorry for your pain. But stop labelling and condemning her behavior.
Truly, It does NOT HELP YOU...
in fact it brings out the worst, most critical & judgemental part of you
and that's part of what you want to conquer in yourself, or so I thought.
My anger consumed me, and didn't help my kids OR my r with my h either. Until I realized that it was hurting me more than anyone else and probably confirming my h's desire to leave...did I really work on it.
Your anger & irritability was a problem you admitted having before you knew of the OM. Why aren't they still problems for you to work on?
You want her to regret her choice, then make sure you stay on course with those changes. Plus you don't want to be here again after R's w/another woman.
The negative mind reading must also stop. You do NOT know what she felt or meant at Christmas.
You don't know how conflicted she was or for how long.
All you know is YOUR part & that's all you can work on.
Why not make that your focus?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
