just b/c there are 2 x 4s in my posts to you, please don't lose sight of what I also said, which is that you probably CAN turn this around.
The 2 x 4s are meant for you to change your course with a big 180 in attitude.
I see that as the only way to get a reconciliation possible.
good luck
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