Be who you are and do what's right without worrying about whether I'm annoyed.
I don't know if you have a backbone or an opinion about discussing your counseling with her. You said not over the phone, which means yes - just not over the phone. Then you said yes but "we both know blah blah veiled threat" which means I'm saying yes but I mean no I'd rather not. Then you checked back to see if you had upset her.
I can't tell if you do or don't want to discuss your counseling session with her. If you do, why didn't you say yes with no buts. If you don't, which sounds more likely your real feeling but you were reluctant to say no to her, you should say unequivocally, "no, hon, it's private." Or something like that. Are you always this tentative with her?
You can still tell her no if you don't want to discuss your counseling with her. Or, you can tell her what subjects you hit, and change the subject. You control how deep you want to go and you have the power to stop talking at any time.
So - you asked if she was ok and she said yeah. That means yes, she's ok. what are you worried about when she comes home?
I believe the DB way is to be mysterious. Let her wonder and worry about losing YOU. Don't share your counseling session private information with her. The DB way is to avoid relationship talks, avoid temperature checks, avoid pursuing her. Can you avoid all this when she gets home? That's what I'd recommend.
I'd recommend being cheerful, have a smile on your face, and tell her your counseling is for you and so you're going to keep it private for now. Just MHO.
But the other part of it, your fear of her annoyance over something that would not be annoying to a normal rational person - what's that about? Can you appear less fearful of her emotions?
Adinva 51, S20, S18 M24 total 6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out 9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50 5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend __ Happiness is a warm puppy.
