I think my H does the same thing. Sadly, my H is in a full-blown relationship with another W. I'm pretty sure they are living together. He is living in another plane of existence these days. The more I 180 the less I get from him. Not sure if that is typical.

BTW, my H is from MO like you.

M: 39, H: 38
D: 4
Together: 19 Y
Married: 9 Y
Bomb #1: 11/04/11 (5 days b/f anniversary)
Bomb #2 and H left: 01/03/12 (day b/f my bday)
OW: confirmed, they live together already