No one said this was going to be easy, and it isn't.
When you live with your S in this sitch, and then you reach this point, they are still there in contact with you on a daily basis, it can get quite confusing.
Reaching this point in this sitch, finally understanding and reaching a new state of mind is necessary. If you live with your S still then there are new hurdles to understand and find a way to live with.
I think you said this beautifully! It's something I'm striving for, but haven't gotten to yet.
