Very true Starsky and that is a great suggestion. I did say to him that he is less worried about our feelings and only worried about his. I also told him I wondered if he truly wants his marriage like he tells me or if he is afraid to lose his lifestyle. He hesitated before answering "marriage, I don't care about lifestyle". I don't believe him
Try not to "teach" him too much right now. I've heard it said that "you can't teach a wayward," and I think that's largely true. You CAN, however, land little "truth darts" from time to time (like you did just there ^ ), but pick your spots -- maybe 2-3x/week, tops.
