Very true Starsky and that is a great suggestion. I did say to him that he is less worried about our feelings and only worried about his. I also told him I wondered if he truly wants his marriage like he tells me or if he is afraid to lose his lifestyle. He hesitated before answering "marriage, I don't care about lifestyle". I don't believe him
I have this in my phone and it pops up as a reminder to me daily:
"By owning my decisions, honoring my boundaries and my authentic self and engaging a healthy and loving support system, I live the passionate, joyful life I deserve"
