Is this cake eating 5

[zig]

oh my NLW - my memory is so bad - that i didn't realize that i had been following your thread - and had missed your reply to me comletely.

i can't figure out how to get notified about getting messages or answers to my posts.

you were great to have pulled back and not called any of them.

the sister and mother of the ow are friends of ours - we had just never met ow all these years. and in the first few months i was SORELY tempted to call the sister, because H had told me that she was very upset when she realized what they were doing, "because she loves you" he said to me.

but i'm glad i refrained too . one thing this sitch has really taught me - as a life lesson is that EVERYBODY has their own pain, not just me.

and your finding out that compassion and understand help you keep the high road and make you feel better - it really resonates with me, also and that is what i have kept doing.

i was so lucky that in the first week after the bomb, a friend handed me one of Pema Chodron's books - it saved me and took me down the path of meditation, which has given me some semblance of composure for a few minutes here and there .

everything you wrote about how pathetic you felt and how now, just the slightest bit of detachment relieves you so much - it's uncanny - i'm going through the same exact thing - and at the same time. there must be something about the 7 month mark - seems more than coincidental

take care
zig