Hi Cadet -

Yes, I have gotten back on track now and am following the guidelines now. I am letting him control the contact, and he is contacting me more now. He does talk a lot still about divorce, and it can get a bit negative at times. But, at least he keeps talking and talking, so I let him talk and I don't argue about it. He is insisting on getting the financial side of things organised. I explained that it is not exactly on my priority list since it is a painful process, but that I will get to it eventually.

Otherwise, I try to keep conversations or texts or emails in the present day, and what is going on in the here and now. That is far more uplifting to me since I am enjoying my life.

I am enjoying just getting myself out there and busy and doing my own thing, and hanging out with friends and going to parties. I had stopped doing all that stuff for a while, and getting back into is so much fun.

I feel much stronger smile I do see that I will need a ton of patience though, but I will continue to enjoy myself throughout!

Thanks for the guidance.