When you set boundaries, the other person is usually not happy. Did you expect her to just say, "OK, thanks"?
Give her time to calm down. Her anger is hers to deal with. You can do nothing about that.
In this sentence: "you have talked several times in the last 18 hours about my pornography, but you haven't mentioned your problem." what part do you control?
Does it do you any good to worry about anything other than what you control?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss