Yankee, I am sorry you are going through this. My husband is also very insistent that we be friends. He has also been insistent that he is going to file papers since October and so far hasn't so maybe there is hope for both of us. Just remember that either way you will be ok. Maybe you could suggest going to marriage counseling in place of a mediator? I know our MC also works with people who are in the process of divorce to get through it.
M: 27 H: 27 M: 2 T: 7+ First bomb: 10/23/2011 He changes his mind: 01/03/2012 He changes his mind again: 02/16/2012 I move out: 03/01/2012