You'll get a lot of extra "noise" here, as everyone wants to help, and so many opinions!!!! I had a lot of that... My problem... I took the advice i wanted to hear not always the advice i should hear!!! I'm glad you're a quicker study!
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Yeah, a bit of variety is good. Autumn, that did sound awkward with you and h's day. Sometimes, even though sad and stressful, our sitches can take on an absurd, surreal, and perversely comic quality.